What About Your Friends?

Friends….they really are the family we get to choose, and since we decide to have them in our lives these relationships are very important.

There is a quote that really summarizes my view of friendships, “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” Let that sink in. The people you surround yourself with will undoubtedly shape you, it’s expected. You spend time with the same people and share thoughts, experiences, energy and ideas, there is no way you cannot be influenced. Because of this you must be intentional in your friendships. Surround yourself with positive influencers, people with that push you to be great. This doesn’t mean you and your friends have to see eye-to-eye on everything, there is beauty and benefits of contrasting views, backgrounds and ideology.

I think part of growing is that your inner circles gets smaller. There’s not anything wrong with this, it’s just as our lives get busy and we change so do our priorities and those we align ourselves with. I love my circle of friends and each person as a specific role in my life, and I in theirs. I have friends I confide my deepest fears to, others that challenge me spiritually, and new friends that I am developing relationships with.  The most important thing is quality over quantity. This methodology is relevant to many aspects of life; and in the discussion of friendship I would rather have three dependable, trusting, companionable friends over twelve people that I don’t really know and only see on social occasions. Don’t focus on building a “roster” of friends but rather develop dependable relationships. My friends are some of my biggest supporters and I couldn’t imagine life without them. They are my FRAMILY (friends and family)!!

I urge you to have purposeful relationships, those that grow and make you happy. Negativity breeds negativity and you can choose not to surround yourself with those who will only bring bad vibes.  The world will provide you with enough negativity, you don’t need to choose to have it in your life.

Share your thoughts on friendships. What makes a good friend? How are you a good friend? How do your relationships impact your life?